Self-love vs. love. When we love others, we give ourselves to them. We want to see them healthy and well. To see them happy makes us smile. We cheer for their success and give our best support when they are down. We try our best to ease their life in some way with our love and caring.
But what about you? Do you show yourself that same love and devotion? Are you kind to yourself when you miss the mark? Do you compare yourself to other women who seem to “have it all together” (chances are they don’t)? Do you look in the mirror and only see what you consider to be flaws instead of how beautiful you are? Do you sometimes cry because you are so exhausted or overwhelmed that you can’t see straight? If you said yes to any of these, you might need a self-love make-over. And why not do it with a witchy twist?
What does all this mumbo-jumbo mean even mean? It means you are important. It means you deserve to be healthy, well-rested, less stressed out and be appreciated for all you do. It means that the world needs you to shine your light, and if you can’t even turn it on, you need some TLC.
As much as we’d love others to throw us a parade and give us an all-around trip. Someplace Really Wonderful to say thank you for all you do. It probably isn’t going to happen. So taking care of yourself needs to be a priority.
Here are 7 Tips for Self-Love with a Witchy Twist
1) Gratitude. I’m all for counting your blessings at the end of the day, and I am definitely for being grateful for your own damn yourself. Take time every day to thank yourself for what you got right.
2) Meditate or be mindful. Meditation has been proven to lower stress levels, increase happiness, improve sleep, and lower blood pressure. Not everyone has an easy time with meditation, though, and not everyone has a block of 20 minutes of solitude either. There are other ways to be mindful, though. One of my favorites is a chocolate meditation-enjoying a piece of chocolate in slo-mo. Smell its delicious aroma, look at it and admire the deep, rich color, take a small bite, and really, truly savor it with no distractions. It only takes 1-2 minutes, and you get chocolate!
3) Go for a walk. Exercise is good for your body, but maybe you don’t have the time, or energy, for the gym. A short walk is easy and takes no special equipment and being outdoors, in nature, is good for the soul. And nature and witches are a freaking match made in heaven. It soothes your sympathetic nervous system and helps you relax instead of being in that stressed-out fight or flight mode, which means it is also great for your waistline and adrenals because you aren’t pumping out cortisol.
4) Admire your qualities. While brushing your teeth or getting dressed in the morning, stand in front of the mirror and really see yourself. Instead of noticing what you consider flaws look at what you love about yourself. Is it your smile? Your eyes? Do you have a gorgeous head of hair? A nice butt? Everyone has something to appreciate. So find it and appreciate what makes you beautiful. But don’t stop at your physical attributes just because they are easy to see. Think about how you show up in the world-admire those qualities, too. See my article about love spells which includes a self-love spell.
5) Get a good night’s sleep. You deserve to be well-rested. Put away your electronics an hour before bedtime. Have a cup of chamomile tea, read a book or have sex. Yes, that’s right. Get your bonk-chick-a-wow-wow on, even if you’re doing it solo. It helps put you into a nice, deep slumber. The love spell blog will have something for you here as well.
6) Speak kindly. Talk to yourself as you would your best friend or child. We are so much kinder when talking to others than we are when the self-chatter kicks. Give yourself a pep talk when things go wrong. Forgive yourself when you make a mistake because nobody gets it right all the time. Tell yourself you look beautiful, or pat yourself on the back for how freaking brilliant/kind/helpful or whatever you may be.
7) Self-Care. Not everyone has the time and/or money for that day at the spa you hear all about, but you can take a mental and physical break. Sit down with a glass of wine or a cup of tea. Take your coffee outside and watch the sunrise. Sit on your butt and flip through a magazine. Just take a moment to hear yourself think. Every Friday night, I have a standing self-care “date” with me, myself, and my bathtub. I have turned it into a self-love ritual (witch’s love rituals, after all), which again you can find in my Love Spell blog.
There are many other ways to practice self-love, and I truly hope you start practicing some of them for the sake of your energetic, emotional, mental and physical health. You are phenomenal, and you deserve the best.
BATH TEA RECIPE
1 cup Himalayan, sea, or Epsom salt with a few drops of Frankincense essential oil mixed in
1 TBS Basil
2 TBS Catnip
1/4 cup Chamomile
1/4 cup Lavender
Place 3 TBS into a cloth bag for use and store the rest.